According to a study, divorce doesn’t harm children rather the disagreements between parents not considering whether they are divorced or married. Even if parents are not ‘coupled’, they should help their children thrive. Ideally, you can’t make a clean break up with your ex when a child is involved. You have to maintain some form of relationship, although you can cut off the tension by only focusing on your child. Here are the tips for co-parenting with your EX.
How to maintain a good relationship with your Ex
Maintain a professional tone
You may have problems sorting out your emotions from your custodial relationship with your ex. Try perceiving them as an associate, not a personal connection. However, you can set boundaries to guide your communications, especially if you argue more often. To demonstrate that you are hearing them, always exercise active listening. Also, instead of making demands, make humble requests and contain valid explanations for a mutual understanding.
Never talk wrong about your Ex; no matter how upset you are,
parents should not speak negatively about each other in front of their children since you teach them disrespect. it also
Lower the morale of your Ex to parent.
Complement their parenting
The best way to boost your relationship with your ex is to appreciate them whenever they make any step towards good parenting. It will make your ex highly motivated and focus on the child.
Consider group counselling
if you have difficulty coping with your ex, consider seeking the help of a therapist because counsellors are not only for married people but for anybody in a relationship. Likewise, your child’s behaviour may be affected; you must take the child for counselling.
Working together as parents
Maintain effective communication
Have a regular time to communicate with your Ex to discuss issues about your child. Set up standard schedules to speak over the phone or physically and keep the discussion centred on your child.
Maintain na lot of consistency in your parenting manner as you can minimize damage to your child due to separation. Moreover, consider maintaining a constant attitude since children are soo sensitive to any weird behaviour from parents. Also, allow your child to have a strong relationship with both of you, minimize exposing them to conflicts and provide them with consistent parenting.
Break the news
Breaking the news may be the most challenging task to do, but it is the only way of avoiding confusion that will come when the child learns of what is going on. Try to have communication in all family members’ presence and clarify any inquiries they have. Most importantly, be patient when elucidating the situation to them. Enlighten that you and your ex have differences and want to disconnect from a parent well.
Come up with the best ways to approach your kids.
Take time together and discuss the best ways to break the news of your separation to your kids. The criteria should be the most ideal and least harmful to your child. Base your communication on the child’s age and level of perception.