You have met this new guy and he is everything you were looking for. A great companion and a lovely person to be around. Then there is your child or children that you love to bits and it would be great if everyone would just get along as one happy family. It can be hard to introduce a new partner to your child. As human being’s new territories make us uncomfortable and so do strangers, specifically those we may need to connect with on a deeper level. This article seeks to explore how to introduce your child to your new boyfriend.
The relationship starts before your first meeting
It is necessary to sit with your child and try to explain that you have met someone new. Depending on the age of your child you can either introduce your new boyfriend as your friend or tell them the relationship that you have in a more detailed manner. This is very important in preparing your child for that first meeting that is crucial in building a great relationship between your boyfriend and your child.
Meeting for that first time
It is much better to involve activities in your first meeting. For example, go to the park or just something that involves some active participation instead of just sitting around. Avoid places that are eerily quiet they may make things awkward. One thing to look out for is avoiding being touchy with your boyfriend on that first meeting to create a more comfortable environment. Slip away a few times to allow your boyfriend some time to talk to your child. This little talk will eventually build up to conversations that are longer and deeper.
Allocate your time fairly
After you have successfully held your first meeting you must now learn to allocate your time fairly between your boyfriend and your children. It is easy to start spending more time with your boyfriend due to the rush that comes with a new relationship and spend lesser time with your child. It might create a dent and even unnecessary friction in your child’s relationship with a new partner which is totally undesirable. Listen to your child and be sensitive to build better communication.
The next step
You may decide to move in together with your new partner which definitely involves more changes especially for your child. It is necessary to have a sit down with your child and involve them in such an important decision. It ensures that your child is on board and that there is effective communication and inclusivity. No child would like to feel isolated and under duress in such decisions.
Dealing with problems
As much as we may not want to encounter problems they will arise. How do you deal with disagreements between your partner and your child? It is much wiser to understand that your child is your responsibility if unfortunately, it comes to choosing between a partner and your child. Apply problem solving skills and sensitivity in solving problems to ensure that both the child and the new partner feel that their opinions are valued and respected.
A new partner can bring great joy to your life and that of your child when proper introduction is done.it can be the start to a quality and happy family. Step by step build that bond that will last a lifetime.