In the recent past, the world has undergone vast revolutions from the fields of agriculture, manufacturing and processing industries and most importantly the technological field. With the efficiency that comes with such, human beings have also civilized to match their environment. Unlike in the traditional African set up, everyone now has the freedom to choose the spouse of their choice with quite a variety to choose from since technology has reduced the world to a global village. While we enjoy the convenience that comes with these advancements, other individuals have with no doubt proven that they cannot settle faithfully with one spouse. They jump around from one relationship to the other thus wasting time for serious and focused individuals. In this article, I am going to share tips on how to deal with a cheating spouse.
Cheating is a serious threat to any flourishing relationship but a break-up may not necessarily be the best solution. You need to understand why your partner cheated in the first place so as to solve the issue once and for all. People cheat for many reasons and it is not always about sex. It could be because your partner is seeking an emotional connection that you have failed to provide or the partner is a crisis and is seeking an escape, among other reasons. However, it will depend on your capacity to tolerate especially if your partner keeps making the same mistakes.
You also need to know the individual that is drawing your partner’s attention. This will help you understand why your partner is cheating. If possible, you need to talk to the third party to inquire whether he or she knows that your partner is taken. If he/she doesn’t know, you need to make him understand and if the person is reasonable enough, they will cut their ties with your spouse.
Seeking the help of a counselor could also go a long way in solving your issue. Some spouses’ reasons for cheating may be far beyond your ability to deal with. Some people do it for revenge, others may be suffering from a mental illness such as depression or Bipolar disorder. For such cases, a counselor is the perfect choice. A counselor may however not provide an immediate solution but after he/she cross-examines the culprit and administers treatment or therapy, gradual change will be noted.
Another way you can deal with a cheating partner is dealing with yourself. You may be the problem. You might be engaging in behaviors that turn off your partner unknowingly. You may ask them to open up but you must be willing to change.
Your health is also important and taking the blame all the time could lead you into depression. If your spouse keeps making the same mistakes and is not willing to take any steps to save your relationship, the best you can do is walk away and perhaps find a person who deserves your time and attention. The worse you can do to yourself is to be in an abusive relationship with a person who takes advantage of your forgiving nature.